Finding Balance for an Inner Peace

Posted on January 24th, 2008 by January Harshe
Yes, I ate a McDonald’s ice cream cone yesterday and I loved every minute of it. In fact my daughter didn’t want her’s so I had 2! You can call me a hypocrite, crazy, or say good for you! I don’t care. I need a balance between being healthy and enjoying life! When I became healthier and lost weight before I would still get treats, but always the best. I used to eat Pacuigo’s gelato once or twice a week! I had found a good balance that worked for me. 

 

It’s this balance that I am struggling with now. I’m in a different state (TX vs. AZ), environment, around different people, the elements of my family have changed (a new baby), my body is different (another pregnancy and now nursing). Finding the right balance can be a bit tricky. It’s kind of touch and go until one day you realize things feel right. You feel great, look great, have a good rhythm to your day and your family is happier. This is what I am working on now. This is where my journey is at the moment. It’s kind of exciting actually. I get to write my life. I am the author with a pen in my hand (or a keyboard in front of me) getting to decide not only what is going to happen today, but also what the next chapter will hold for me.

I am ready Dr. Wayne Dyer’s book 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace. Now that’s quite a bit to ingest at first. To tell you the truth it’s a pretty book. That may sound strange, but it really does feel good to have around. 

 

Chapter one or the first secret is to "Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing". That is a big concept to grasp. To do this, you must let go of all conditioning, preconceived ideas and what you have learned to be true. This is so much more to this life, this world, than we know. What we know is nothing, but a tiny piece of a bigger picture. Anything is possible. Anything! If you realize that you know just about nothing about anything, then you will see that there is no reason to have a closed mind about anything.

Since anything is possible, and there is much to this universe we don’t know then you can create anything you want, right? Have you heard the quote, "With God all things are possible."? I love that Wayne Dyer used this in his book. It is so true. If you do not think that you can do anything your heart desires, then you do not believe that with God all things are possible. It’s that simple. Do you believe or don’t you? Break down those barriers and layers of crap and get to your core. Have the faith of child. Believe!

How can you be open to everything? Wayne Dyer makes a bold statement. When someone suggest something to you that goes against you conditioning, instead of saying, "That’s ridiculous or impossible", say, "I’ve never considered that before, I’ll think about it!" Try doing this for a week and see if it opens your mind. You might realize that you are more negative than you think of yourself to be.

Another statement to make you think is this. "Let go of your attachments to what you’ve been trained to believe. Open your mind to all possibilities, because whether you believe something is possible or impossible, either way you’ll be right."

He believes that your attachments are a source of all your problems. You can be attached to things, people, the need to be right, to win, etc. By being open minded you can resist these attachments and have inner peace and success.

So, how do you release attachments? Change how you see yourself. There are two sides to people. Their ego and their spirit. Taming your ego and letting your spirit shine through to guide your life is key. Be a witness in your life. Have peaceful thoughts and then you’ll have peaceful emotions. You can still desire, but don’t be attached.

One more thing from the book. Let’s say you have two wands. With Wand A you can have anything physical you desire and with Wand B you can have a sense of peace for the rest of your life regardless of anything that comes up in your life. If you pick peace then you already have Wand B. Think about it. If you can love someone enough for them to be what they choose to be without any expectations or attachments from you then you will have true peace in your life. "True love means you love a person for what they are , not for what you think they should be. This is an open mine—and an absence of attachment"

That is awesome! It is very inspiring. Thank you Dr. Wayne Dyer!

I’ll give an example of how I had to let go of a physical attachment just a few minutes ago. I received a birthday present from a good friend. Something I had wanted that was cute and just for me. It just arrived and I pulled it out of the package. I had used a pair of scissors to open the package. I walked away for a minute to grab something and my 4 year old daughter jumped up on the counter, grabbed the scissor and cut the beautiful ribbon that went across the present. The ribbon was not on the packaging, but was actually part of the object. My first reaction was to be upset. I wanted to feel sorry for myself because I had just received it and already it was "ruined"! I wanted my daughter to feel bad, to have remorse. Then I stopped myself. It is a thing, an object. Does it really matter? Why am I attached to the point of being upset over it? So, I grabbed the scissor and cut off the ribbon and left the pretty bow and no one will even know.

It is interesting to me how attached we can be. Here are some things I am going to work on not being attached to:

-Anything physical in my life including bags, clothes, our TV, computer, and my phone. I learned that it was easy to live without a phone this week as I had left it in Utah and haven’t had an alternative. It wasn’t so bad. More peaceful actually!

-My hurt feelings and pride.

-Food :roll:

Are there any attachments you can let go of to strive for inner peace?

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7 Responses to “Finding Balance for an Inner Peace”

  1. Brandon Says:

    I’m not attached to the Phoenix Suns. I’m not attached to the Phoenix Suns. I’m not attached to the Phoenix Suns… Argh! It’s not working! :mrgreen:

  2. Staci Says:

    Wow, that was great!! Thanks January I needed that today. I similarly had an experience this week on attachments. See I am pretty High strung as you know and my husband was in roll over accident on Sunday. Instead of my first reaction when he told me being thankful he was all right. I was immediately panicked about the money and the car being totaled. I can not believe I am admitting this but talk about sad. This is definitely something I need to be working on. Thank You.

  3. January Says:

    Honey, you keep telling yourself that! LOL

    Staci, that is brave to admit what you were thinking. We all have these kinds of examples in our lives. Just the fact that you are recognizing it and changing it is a big step. I’m proud of you mama!

  4. JS Raines Says:

    That was a really great post!

  5. Jaynie Says:

    Hey January

    That book is going on my list! It’s very true about attachments it’s the main reason we don’t do the the things we do including an attachement to comfort at the expense of fulfilment. You changed your blog?

    Jaynie X

  6. Tara Says:

    Hello there- fellow MDC mama here. I’m also experimenting with raw food and breastfeeding a 5 month old while running after a toddler. So I hear you! I liked your post today and I actually posted something along the same lines on my own blog yesterday. Just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone. :mrgreen:

  7. January Says:

    Jaynie…I haven’t completely changed it. Just last week my thoughts and reading took me in this direction. My blog will probably be well rounded in that it will have info and thoughts on all aspects of life.

     Tara…Hi mama! Glad to see you are here and commenting. I’ll check out your blog! Let me know how it goes with switching to raw. Did you read my post about that? I’m curious to see what you eat and how it works for you!

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